My first question is do you have any experience with parrots? Your profile doesn't mention any other birds. Upon reading your post over I see you were slightly upset by parrot holes in your shirt. Any experienced parrot person knows you have 2 sets of clothes one of which is soley dedicated to be worn only around parrots and the other set to be worn out.Holes in shirts are pretty much the norm for parrots. You never wear your best to play with your bird.
Your bird is confused and scared just like you were the first day of school.
Read anything by Sally Blanchard,Mattie Sue Athon,Bird Talk Magazine. You can find references to themby doiing a search
I got Sinbad at 4 years old. I was the 4th owner. Took me a year to handle him and a large box of band aids a week. It takes PATIENCE, PATIENCE, PATIENCE. Sinbad is now 22 years old. It can be done. Did I mention it takes PATIENCE?
If your bird has a band the year of hatch is generally on the band or an avian vet can make an educated guess
If you have specific questions we can help more.----Yogi