Pat, you need to give him a reason to want to step up. Pushing your finger into his chest just knocks him off balance and he has no choice. The more choice you can give your birds, the better the relationship between you. If you want a good relationship with this bird, do not force him to do anything. Work to gain his trust. Have you ever heard of Good Bird Magazine? It is an excellent magazine that is all about positive reinforcement.
www.goodbirdinc.comWhat is his favourite treat? The first thing he takes out of his bowl will be his favourite and you should save that for training sessions. It's best to have several primary reinforcers and food is a primary reinforcer. Praise or a scratch is a secondary reinforcer.
I know when one of my birds want to step up because their foot is raised as I approach them, they step up and I give them a pine nut. They do not get pine nuts any other time.
I don't know why we think animals should do something just because we believe they should. Would you go to work if you didn't get paid? I wouldn't. What is reinforcing to me is my pay cheque because money pays my rent, buys food, etc. The same is true for animals. If you want them to do something, give them a reason to want to do it rather than make them do it.
Bev
There is no creature on this planet that will help you find your inner child as quickly as a parrot.